//I just had to write this in response to the angry comments regarding my idea that, "viciousness is suffering." So forgive me for sticking this sharp stick in the eye a little deeper. The quote that read, "When someone is vicious toward you they are giving you a glimpse of the pain they carry in themselves. Viciousness is suffering." This has sent some people into a mouth-frothing frenzy.//
I believe that viciousness is suffering. Cold-blooded people who delight in the pain of others, bullies, abusers, narcissists, sociopaths, rapists, killers, animal abusers and ugly miserable souls need compassion and understanding as much as they need condemnation. All viciousness is suffering. A being who is stricken with psychopathy to the point where they cannot live a fulfilling life of healthy emotional ranges and relationships, or stop themselves from hurting others, is in a state of total suffering as a being. Don't say, "they don't feel anything, so they don't suffer." Not to be able to feel anything is to be cut-off from all that is beautiful in life, which is the definition of tremendous suffering and loss. Even if they are completely unaware and uncaring, observers can see they suffer a stunted and perverted human experience; a psychological deformity. Similar to a person in a coma, they have been ravaged and we see their loss of normalcy; of humanity. Crippled in body or conscience; they are crippled nonetheless. They may be sick, but sickness is suffering. Even if they were born that way, haven't they been cheated? Wretched they may be; but pity upon them. As evil and twisted their grotesque deeds may be, in the knot of their contorted form is a tormented soul. If no compassion from you — then from who? Is there not room in your heart for all victims? Do we bring healing to society with our blanket hate and myopic judgements? Are we big enough to be righteously incensed without being insensitive?
After reading all of the hate filled (and vicious) comments from those who want to just "take people out back and shoot them" — I want to proclaim my admiration for social workers, therapists and clergy around the world who dedicate their lives to the seemingly impossible task of helping those most people deem unworthy of help, and who are brave enough to not discriminate between victims of crime, circumstance and ill-fate.
People have asked me how do we go about helping with people who commit such egregious acts, how do we keep people safe and what about the victims; what do we do for them? What is your solution? I'm not sure what can or should be done, these he problems are so enormous. It is all heartbreaking. What I do know is I can start with my own attitudes and perspectives, which I do have some control over, and as deeply as possible, I can expand my caring. I feel if all of us can just care more, this is a good beginning.
I like these quotes on the topic:
"Hurt people hurt people."
"Damaged people damage people."
"When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending."
-Thich Nhat Hanh
I also like to think about Gandhi's quote similarly articulated by St. Augustine, who wrote, "With love for mankind and hatred of sins." ^^St. Augustine. His Letter 211 (c. 424)^^
"Hate the sin and not the sinner."
-Mohandas Gandhi|1929 autobiography
|All viciousness is suffering.
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