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Stop blaming and start being! We attract what we are. We attract who we are. If you don't like something in your life, look only at who you are. Who you are is why you choose the friends and situations in your life. Who you are is why you choose poorly, or fail to choose wisely. Stop being a victim! When you blame others you are effectively proclaiming that you are only response to stimuli. But you are much more than mere response to stimuli. When you blame others, you are affirming that you have no power, and your existence is only a reaction to the power of others. But, you are powerful, if you choose to be. You can choose to be proactive, assertive and self-defining. You can choose better relationships, better jobs, better places to live, better uses of your time and better ways of treating yourself. Go look in the mirror and have a talk with your real boss. Find a new and better leader within yourself, for yourself. Lead your life with love and friendship; self-love, and as your own friend. Lead with honesty, total integrity, compassion, patience and tolerance — toward yourself! If you live with values for yourself, then you become of great value to all who know you. It starts with you. Quit waiting for others to give to you; it is not going to happen. You are all powerful, take control of your life's situations rather than being a passive bystander.

You see, reconciliation with others and the world begins within. If you don't get right with yourself, then nothing in this life will ever make you happy. Blame is very tricky in that it seems like a way out when it is really a form of imprisonment. Until you stop blaming and become positively self-critical you are not going to move forward. You think that if you blame, you will then be free of those problems, but blame cements you to your problems. You have to take responsibility. Empowerment is never about blame; it is about taking personal responsibility. Taking personal responsibility is not about being "responsible" — it is about seeing your truth and evolving. People who blame are always looking to "get out" of something, but like quicksand, the more they struggle the more they are captive. Blame anchors us into the past; a place we cannot change. Acceptance frees us to the future. Even when something is not your fault, toxic blame has no place in your life. Focus on your own empowerment and healing. If you set a clear standard for yourself; for how you wish to be treated — people will take note. Rather than communicating blame, communicate your standards for proper future treatment. We must do better must always translate into, "I must do better."

"You have two choices, you can keep running and hiding and blaming the world for your problems, or you can stand up for yourself and decide to be somebody important." — Sidney Sheldon

Ultimately, everything is completely up to you. Quit looking for the answers outside of yourself. The invitation to something better is not arriving from any source outside of yourself — ever. Those who get the invitation are the ones who realize that the invitation only comes from deep within. Give yourself permission to be free from the past. You are the authority and the gatekeeper of your own life. Once you become something, only then, are you worthy of it. The life you want is a manifestation of self-realization. It is easy; just be — to receive. Manifesting is primarily about identity, and secondarily about action. Begin accepting your gifts now. You can have every wonderful thing life can bestow, by being every wonderful thing to others.

Stop blaming and start being. Everything comes by being! Be the love you seek. Be the friend you seek. Be the lover you seek. Be the honesty you seek. Be the integrity you seek. Be the patience you seek. Be the tolerance you seek. Be the compassion you seek.

Fill-in the blank: Be the __ you seek.

"Pause and remember— The peace you seek begins with you! When you consciously and consistently choose peace in your words and actions, more peace will appear in your life. Stop blaming everything and everyone outside of you. Make peace within your priority." — Jenni Young

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Stop blaming and start being!
We attract what we are. We attract who we are.
If you don't like something in your life, look only at who you are.
Who you are is why you choose the friends and situations in your life.
Who you are is why you choose poorly, or fail to choose wisely.
When you blame others you are effectively proclaiming that you are only response to stimuli.
When you blame others, you are affirming that you have no power, and your existence is only a reaction to the power of others.
You are powerful, if you choose to be.
Choose to be proactive, assertive and self-defining.
You can choose better relationships, better jobs, better places to live, better uses of your time and better ways of treating yourself.
Go look in the mirror and have a talk with your real boss
Find a new and better leader within yourself, for yourself.
Lead your life with love and friendship; self-love, and as your own friend.
Lead with honesty, total integrity, compassion, patience and tolerance — toward yourself!
If you live with values for yourself, then you become of great value to all who know you.
Quit waiting for others to give to you; it is not going to happen.
If you don't get right with yourself, then nothing in this life will ever make you happy.
Blame is very tricky in that it seems like a way out when it is really a form of imprisonment.
Until you stop blaming and become positively self-critical you are not going to move forward.
You think that if you blame, you will then be free of those problems, but blame cements you to your problems.
Empowerment is never about blame; it is about taking personal responsibility.
Taking personal responsibility is not about being "responsible" — it is about seeing your truth and evolving.
People who blame are always looking to "get out" of something, but like quicksand, the more they struggle the more they are captive.
Blame anchors us into the past; a place we cannot change. Acceptance frees us to the future.
Even when something is not your fault, toxic blame has no place in your life. Focus on your own empowerment and healing.
If you set a clear standard for yourself; for how you wish to be treated — people will take note.
Rather than communicating blame, communicate your standards for proper future treatment.
Quit looking for the answers outside of yourself.
The invitation to something better is not arriving from any source outside of yourself — ever.
Those who get the invitation are the ones who realize that the invitation only comes from deep within.
You are the authority and the gatekeeper of your own life.
Once you become something, only then, are you worthy of it.
The life you want is a manifestation of self-realization.
It is easy; just be — to receive. Manifesting is primarily about identity, and secondarily about action.
Begin accepting your gifts now. You can have every wonderful thing life can bestow, by being every wonderful thing to others.
Everything comes by being! Be the love you seek. Be the friend you seek. Be the lover you seek. Be the honesty you seek. Be the integrity you seek.
Be the patience you seek.
Be the tolerance you seek.
Be the compassion you seek.

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M E Linda Carrico - Facebook
I love you <3

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Greg Dutilly - Facebook
I seriously consider you a role model in it life.

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Jimmy King - Facebook
true true...

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Bryant McGill - Facebook
Amazingly sweet of you both! :)

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M E Linda Carrico - Facebook
You have inspired me in so many ways...shall I name them ? lol <3

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M E Linda Carrico - Facebook
I love you...#1 , I love you # 2 , to infiniti :)

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Kat d'Acre - bryantmcgill.com
Be the "True Friend To Yourself "You Seek.

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Bryant McGill - bryantmcgill.com
For sure! ;)

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Kat d'Acre - bryantmcgill.com
{HUGS/KISSES}TKS,for giving me the chance to be me back when i needed it 2010 today 2012 i speak with no fear cause of you my friend. Tk U Tk U Tk U;)

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Bryant McGill - bryantmcgill.com
I understand fully what you are talking about. We must allow people the space and time of discovery, and trust in all that is to come. All is well. :)

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Jeremy Caverley - bryantmcgill.com
Be the example you seek.

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Abby Merin - bryantmcgill.com
Be the strength you seek.

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Chrissy Desjardins - bryantmcgill.com
courtesy and respect that is in you.

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Charmaine A. Blake Hanson - bryantmcgill.com
Be the patience you seek.

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Bryant McGill - bryantmcgill.com
For sure. :)

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Charmaine A. Blake Hanson - bryantmcgill.com
As I matured into motherhood with teenagers, being patient was all I could be. My kids are super calm and quiet. (=: All I could ask from them.

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Bryant McGill - bryantmcgill.com
Awww... That is so nice that you gave them the gift of patience, which they have with them forever. :)

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Jenni Creatives - bryantmcgill.com
Awww...that is way to teach! If only more moms could be like you!

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Debra Lynn Dresden - bryantmcgill.com
Right on...... Be the trust that you seek.

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Bryant McGill - bryantmcgill.com
Yes. Trust others and you are more trusted. If you are suspicious and jaded, then others will be more closed to you. When you are open, you give permission to those around you to be open too. :)

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Debra Lynn Dresden - bryantmcgill.com
I was referring to begin this process by trusting yourself and trusting your intuition. Only by building this self-trust can you see others as trustworthy

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Bryant McGill - bryantmcgill.com
Yes, that foundation of self-trust is required first step. I agree. :)




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