Stop blaming and start being! We attract what we are. We attract who we are. If you don't like something in your life, look only at who you are. Who you are is why you choose the friends and situations in your life. Who you are is why you choose poorly, or fail to choose wisely. Stop being a victim! If you do not like a certain behavior in others, look within yourself to find the roots of what discomforts you. The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.

When you blame others you are effectively proclaiming that you are only response to stimuli. But you are more than response to stimuli. When you blame others, you are affirming that you have no power, and your existence is only a reaction to the power of others. But, you are powerful, if you choose to be. You can choose to be pro-active, assertive and self-defining. You can choose better relationships, better jobs, better places to live, better uses of your time and better ways of treating yourself. Go look in the mirror and have a talk with your real boss, and if you don't like what you see--say, "You're fired!" Find a new and better leader within yourself, for yourself. Lead your life with love and friendship; self-love as your own friend. Lead with honesty, total integrity, compassion, patience and tolerance--toward yourself! If you live with values for yourself, then you become of great value to all who know you. It starts with you. Quit waiting for others to give to you; it is not going to happen.

It is completely up to you. Quit looking for the answers outside of yourself. The invitation to something better is not arriving from any source outside of yourself--EVER. Give yourself permission. Those who get the invitation are the ones who realize, that the invitation, only comes from deep within. You are the authority and the gatekeeper of your own life. Once you become something, only then, are you worthy of it. The life you want is a manifestation of self-realization. It is easy; just be, and have. Begin accepting the gift now, and have every beautiful and good thing in life--and then SHARE.

Everything comes by being! Be the love you seek. Be the friend you seek. Be the lover you seek. Be the honesty you seek. Be the integrity you seek. Be the patience you seek. Be the tolerance you seek. Be the compassion you seek.

Fill-in the blank: Be the __________ you seek.

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