To forgive another person means you have first condemned them. When we condemn others we condemn ourselves. When we judge and agonize over another's faults, we become attached to their imbalance and sickness. When we hold-on to someone's imperfections we become emotionally pair-bonded to their maladies. At a deeper level, when we constantly meditate on another's faults, it is because we are neglecting our own unhealed wounds. Forgiveness is another way of saying, 'I need to mind my own business.'
— Bryant McGill
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