I'd rather you impress me, than love me. I'd rather you be strong in your own opinions, than yield to mine for approval. We should delight in people's lives being full of impressive accomplishments, precisely because we do love and care about them. We should be proud of people having their own opinions, even when those opinions differ from our own, because real love wants every person to be independent, strong, and confident. When we really care for people's development and wellbeing, our admiration of their impressive accomplishments feels even more deeply satisfying, than their admiration of our own opinions and accomplishments. One of the most powerful and practical forms of unconditional love, is being impressed — with those whom we disagree, and even more so, with those we know may not even like us, or our way of seeing the world. Being loved feels good to us all, but when someone impresses us, that commands respect. I'd rather be impressed and respect you first, but if we have both love and respect, well — that is just unparalleled! It is so pleasurable to see people standing tall and thriving with self-reliance. We should rather sacrifice our egos, if it helps another ascend beyond the suffocating reach of our own insecurities. Never allow your insecurities to create insecurity in others. Like any good coach, temporary mentor, or friend should think — you don't have to like me, and we don't always have to agree, but learn what you can from me; throw out the rest, and above all — go out there and be great!
— Bryant McGill
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