It's ok to want friends. It's ok to want opportunities. It's ok to want to be acknowledged; to be noticed, appreciated, accepted and understood. Everyone needs to be heard. But when you are frustrated waiting for these things to arrive, instead of getting angry or impatient that they are not happening — give them to someone else. Notice someone. Share your appreciation. Accept someone. Earnestly listen to someone who's in need of acknowledgement. It is by withholding what you deeply need from others, that you keep it from yourself. When you put your needs into service in the lives of others, your needs will then be met. And don't forget to give to yourself what you want from others. The love and attention you always thought you wanted from someone else, is the love and attention you first need to give to yourself.
— Bryant McGill
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