<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # I know you want to be a good person and be helpful... > I know you want to be a good person and be helpful to people in need, but it's impossible to give to others if your energy has already been used-up. {{Being a good person has nothing to do with allowing people to destroy you.}} There are limits. You can best help others from a position of strength, not weakness. So, don't forget to be good to yourself first. Don't forget to take care of you! {{It is never cruel to want to save yourself from being swamped by fools.}} {{You cannot save everyone. Some people are going to destroy themselves no matter how much you try to help them.}} Their lives are full of emptiness, chaos, and dysfunction, and they will bring their misery and pain into your life with full-force if you allow it. Then there are others who have the outward appearance of success and are seemingly not self-destructive in nature. These people do not destroy themselves, but instead survive through the destruction of others — these are the users. Either of these types of people will latch-on to you in a death-spiral and take you down to the depths of hell with them — if you allow it. {{This is your life, and you have the right and responsibility to make good decisions for yourself.}} **Source:** [[books/Simple Reminders Book (2014-2018)|Simple Reminders]] <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->