<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # Learn to love being told you are wrong or being... > Learn to love being told you are wrong or being insulted. {{Every insult is an opportunity.}} {{Being insulted offers you an opportunity to practice decency and having a non-response internally.}} {{When we are easily upset it is because we are internally unstable and unrefined spiritually.}} {{Any defensiveness is a sign of failure. You can't move forward if you are defensive.}} {{If you do not like a certain behavior in others, look within yourself to find the roots of what discomforts you.}} {{The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.}} {{Criticism is no threat to your self-esteem or identity, but rather informs you.}} You can't see clearly through defensiveness. {{You can get to a place where you see clearly; that place is zero defensiveness.}} Take any concept you believe in deeply and say out loud, and with full conviction, that your dearest belief may be totally flawed. Say, "There is no doubt that I could be wrong." If you cannot do this, then you do not possess the idea, the idea possesses you. {{Change will never happen when people lack the ability and courage to see themselves for who they are.}} {{An intelligent person is never afraid or ashamed to find errors in their understanding of things.}} {{The best practice is to be around people who absolutely disagree. Grace in conflict is a study in love.}} **Source:** [[books/Simple Reminders Book (2014-2018)|Simple Reminders]] <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->