<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # Learning to master inner-calm and non-response to... > Learning to master inner-calm and non-response to what seems like negativity is a life practice. {{When you release yourself from the need for approval and control you can stop punishing yourself and others.}} {{The fulcrum of resistance is in your mind where you pit yourself against the weight of the external.}} Release yourself from the struggle of emotional exertion that goes nowhere. {{No one can make you feel anything; you are completely responsible for how you feel.}} {{Until you quit participating in your pain, cooperating in your abuse and engaging in the contest, you will always be a part of other people's games of torment and inner-suffering.}} Next time someone comes after you to fight, ask yourself in that moment, "who am I, and who do I choose to be?" Choose calm. Choose serenity. Choose independent confidence and sanity. {{Once you detach from conflict through non-engagement, you rise to a state of empowering calm awareness, empathy and safety.}} **Source:** [[books/Simple Reminders Book (2014-2018)|Simple Reminders]] <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->