<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # Stop blaming and start being! We attract what we... > {{Stop blaming and start being!}} {{We attract what we are. We attract who we are.}} {{If you don't like something in your life, look only at who you are.}} {{Who you are is why you choose the friends and situations in your life.}} {{Who you are is why you choose poorly, or fail to choose wisely.}} Stop being a victim! {{When you blame others you are effectively proclaiming that you are only response to stimuli.}} But you are much more than mere response to stimuli. {{When you blame others, you are affirming that you have no power, and your existence is only a reaction to the power of others.}} But, y{Y{ou are powerful, if you choose to be.}} You can c{C{hoose to be proactive, assertive and self-defining.}} {{You can choose better relationships, better jobs, better places to live, better uses of your time and better ways of treating yourself.}} {{Go look in the mirror and have a talk with your real boss}}. {{Find a new and better leader within yourself, for yourself.}} {{Lead your life with love and friendship; self-love, and as your own friend.}} {{Lead with honesty, total integrity, compassion, patience and tolerance — toward yourself!}} {{If you live with values for yourself, then you become of great value to all who know you.}} It starts with you. {{Quit waiting for others to give to you; it is not going to happen.}} You are all powerful, take control of your life's situations rather than being a passive bystander. **Source:** [[books/Simple Reminders Book (2014-2018)|Simple Reminders]] <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->