<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # So take the side you are on and hold it without... > So take the side you are on and hold it without the paperwork. If you are the child, you did not set a boundary; you deposed someone, and it worked because their power to make you pay had ended, and you should say so plainly, because animals expel dangerous seniors and have since before there was language, and the story of the parent's toxicity is the display the troop requires of you, true or not, before it will let you keep the grandchildren. If you are the parent, you were not betrayed by a generation; you were outpriced by your own offspring, who inherited the coalition you built and used it, which is what coalitions are for, and the only thing that will ever bring them back is the day you hold something they need or the day the ally who replaced you falls. {{Reconciliation arrives when the expelled becomes valuable or the expeller becomes weak, and it will be called forgiveness, and it will be a transaction.}} The instrument for both is the same: whoever controls the future controls the split, and the future in every family war is the children, so the grandchildren are the ledger, the holidays are the coalition roll call, and the inheritance is the last card the old animal holds, which is why it is mentioned so rarely and thought about so much. {{Nothing broke in your family. A coalition reorganized around its strongest member, as troops do, and everyone on the outside of the new circle is calling it a tragedy while everyone inside it is calling it health.}} **Source:** [[books/Chimping Out|Chimping Out]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “So take the side you are on and hold it without the paperwork. If you are the child, you did not set a boundary; you deposed someone, and it worked because their power to make you pay had ended, and you should say so plainly, because animals expel dangerous seniors and have since before there was language, and the story of the parent's toxicity is the display the troop requires of you, true or not, before it will let you keep the grandchildren. If you are the parent, you were not betrayed by a generation; you were outpriced by your own offspring, who inherited the coalition you built and used it, which is what coalitions are for, and the only thing that will ever bring them back is the day you hold something they need or the day the ally who replaced you falls. Reconciliation arrives when the expelled becomes valuable or the expeller becomes weak, and it will be called forgiveness, and it will be a transaction. The instrument for both is the same: whoever controls the future controls the split, and the future in every family war is the children, so the grandchildren are the ledger, the holidays are the coalition roll call, and the inheritance is the last card the old animal holds, which is why it is mentioned so rarely and thought about so much. Nothing broke in your family. A coalition reorganized around its strongest member, as troops do, and everyone on the outside of the new circle is calling it a tragedy while everyone inside it is calling it health.” — Bryant McGill https://bryantmcgill.com/passages/passages-take-side-hold-inside-calling-health ``` <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->