At one time or another, we all try to please everyone, to be smart or pretty, to keep it all together and to do everything perfectly. We see life as having expectations that we must hurl ourselves at, and we believe that we must not fail. Through our expectations, we violently expand and try to fill the world and receive the world. Desperately expanding outward to fill the world is like an explosion where we disperse and lose ourselves. When we are quiet and still we contract and settle. Relax. You do not need to prove yourself.