<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # Conflict improves when the problem is placed... > Conflict improves when the problem is placed beside the partners rather than between them. “How do we change this pattern?” recruits cooperation where “Which of us is defective?” recruits defense. **Source:** [[livestreams/Healing Painful Relationships Through Honesty and Safety - Workbook|Healing Painful Relationships Through Honesty and Safety]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “Conflict improves when the problem is placed beside the partners rather than between them. “How do we change this pattern?” recruits cooperation where “Which of us is defective?” recruits defense.” — Bryant McGill https://bryantmcgill.com/quotes/quotes-conflict-improves-problem-defective-recruits-defense ``` <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->