<!-- bryant-content-generator:start --> # Lasting change usually begins with the person who... > Lasting change usually begins with the person who owns the problem, not the person who notices it. When a behavior has been identified only by someone else, the promise to fix it often belongs more to the relationship than to the self, and you cannot want another person’s growth more than they want it without becoming the only one doing the work. Offer the observation, offer the help, and then let the other person decide whether the change is theirs. **Source:** [[livestreams/Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Workbook|Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “Lasting change usually begins with the person who owns the problem, not the person who notices it. When a behavior has been identified only by someone else, the promise to fix it often belongs more to the relationship than to the self, and you cannot want another person’s growth more than they want it without becoming the only one doing the work. Offer the observation, offer the help, and then let the other person decide whether the change is theirs.” — Bryant McGill https://bryantmcgill.com/quotes/quotes-lasting-change-usually-whether-change-theirs ``` <!-- bryant-content-generator:end -->