# You Get to Choose the Lesson by Bryant McGill > “You get to choose the lesson. People naturally look for meaning in painful events, and whether or not any larger purpose exists, you can decide what you take away: not bitterness and distrust, but more wisdom, more self-respect, and clearer boundaries next time.” > **— Bryant McGill**, *Knowing When to Set Boundaries and When to Walk Away - Livestream (Jan 2019)* ## Sources and Context - **Source:** [[livestreams/Knowing When to Set Boundaries and When to Walk Away - Livestream|Knowing When to Set Boundaries and When to Walk Away - Livestream]] — exact quotation from the dated developed livestream document (2019-01-12). ## Related Articles and Collections - **Collection:** [[collections/Simple Reminders|Simple Reminders]] - **Article:** [[articles/simple reminders/Your Future Begins with Your Next Thought|Your Future Begins with Your Next Thought]] - **Livestream:** [[livestreams/Knowing When to Set Boundaries and When to Walk Away - Livestream|Knowing When to Set Boundaries and When to Walk Away - Livestream]] ## Related Topics - [[wiki/Self-Knowledge|Self-Knowledge]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “You get to choose the lesson. People naturally look for meaning in painful events, and whether or not any larger purpose exists, you can decide what you take away: not bitterness and distrust, but more wisdom, more self-respect, and clearer boundaries next time.” — Bryant McGill, Knowing When to Set Boundaries and When to Walk Away - Livestream (Jan 2019) https://bryantmcgill.com/simple-reminders-bryant-mcgill-choose-lesson-pain ```