# Confirm the Wound and Find the Next Move by Bryant McGill > “Responsibility for an injury and responsibility for the response are two different questions. A friend can be genuinely mistreated and still benefit from being asked, gently, what part of the situation is within their power to change, and a culture that treats that question as rude has confused loyalty with agreement, when the kindest support confirms the wound and then helps the person find the next move.” > **— Bryant McGill**, *Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Livestream (Feb 2016)* ## Sources and Context - **Source:** [[livestreams/Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Livestream|Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Livestream]] — exact quotation from the dated developed livestream document (2016-02-13). ## Related Articles and Collections - **Collection:** [[collections/Simple Reminders|Simple Reminders]] - **Article:** [[articles/simple reminders/Your Future Begins with Your Next Thought|Your Future Begins with Your Next Thought]] - **Livestream:** [[livestreams/Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Livestream|Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Livestream]] ## Related Topics - [[wiki/Accountability|Accountability]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “Responsibility for an injury and responsibility for the response are two different questions. A friend can be genuinely mistreated and still benefit from being asked, gently, what part of the situation is within their power to change, and a culture that treats that question as rude has confused loyalty with agreement, when the kindest support confirms the wound and then helps the person find the next move.” — Bryant McGill, Accountability, Self-Confrontation, and Conscious Change - Livestream (Feb 2016) https://bryantmcgill.com/simple-reminders-bryant-mcgill-confirm-wound-find-next-move ```