# Changing the Feedback Changes the Relationship by Bryant McGill > “Behavior follows its price. Attention, quick replies, and emotional reactions all reward a pattern, while calm limits make careless treatment more costly. Changing the feedback changes what a relationship keeps producing.” > **— Bryant McGill**, *Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream (Jan 2016)* ## Sources and Context - **Source:** [[livestreams/Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream|Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream]] — exact quotation from the developed livestream document. ## Related Articles and Collections - **Collection:** [[collections/Simple Reminders|Simple Reminders]] - **Article:** [[articles/Analog Cognition and the Architecture of Continuity|Analog Cognition and the Architecture of Continuity]] - **Article:** [[articles/Humans and AIs as Entangled Learning Systems|Humans and AIs as Entangled Learning Systems]] - **Livestream:** [[livestreams/Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream|Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream]] ## Related Topics - [[wiki/Feedback and Relationships|Feedback and Relationships]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “Behavior follows its price. Attention, quick replies, and emotional reactions all reward a pattern, while calm limits make careless treatment more costly. Changing the feedback changes what a relationship keeps producing.” — Bryant McGill, Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream (Jan 2016) https://bryantmcgill.com/simple-reminders-bryant-mcgill-feedback-changes-relationship ```