# Protect Yourself Instead of Redeeming a Betrayer by Bryant McGill > “You usually cannot heal a person who keeps betraying you. Many good people believe they will be the one whose love finally changes a habitual deceiver, but repeated betrayal tends to continue until the other person chooses to change, often with someone else. Your role is to protect yourself, not to redeem them.” > **— Bryant McGill**, *Deception, Exploitative Contracts, and the Courage to Leave - Livestream (Jan 2019)* ## Sources and Context - **Source:** [[livestreams/Deception, Exploitative Contracts, and the Courage to Leave - Livestream|Deception, Exploitative Contracts, and the Courage to Leave - Livestream]] — exact quotation from the dated developed livestream document (2019-01-21). ## Related Articles and Collections - **Collection:** [[collections/Simple Reminders|Simple Reminders]] - **Article:** [[articles/The Dead Are Easier to Love|The Dead Are Easier to Love]] - **Article:** [[articles/A Diplomatic Approach to Symbiosis|A Diplomatic Approach to Symbiosis]] - **Livestream:** [[livestreams/Deception, Exploitative Contracts, and the Courage to Leave - Livestream|Deception, Exploitative Contracts, and the Courage to Leave - Livestream]] ## Related Topics - [[wiki/Boundaries|Boundaries]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “You usually cannot heal a person who keeps betraying you. Many good people believe they will be the one whose love finally changes a habitual deceiver, but repeated betrayal tends to continue until the other person chooses to change, often with someone else. Your role is to protect yourself, not to redeem them.” — Bryant McGill, Deception, Exploitative Contracts, and the Courage to Leave - Livestream (Jan 2019) https://bryantmcgill.com/simple-reminders-bryant-mcgill-protect-yourself-betrayer ```