# Trust Is Stronger Than Primate Mate-Guarding by Bryant McGill > “Many primate males guard their mates closely, and that vigilance costs both partners energy and peace. Humans can choose differently, building fidelity on trust and mutual delight instead of surveillance. Relationships held together by watching are fragile, while those held by wanting to be together are strong.” > **— Bryant McGill**, *Why Real Love Gives Freedom and Lets Go of Control - Livestream (Dec 2015)* ## Sources and Context - **Source:** [[livestreams/Why Real Love Gives Freedom and Lets Go of Control - Livestream|Why Real Love Gives Freedom and Lets Go of Control - Livestream]] — exact quotation from the developed livestream document. - **Conceptual context:** Proximity, vigilance, monopolization of time, rival monitoring, signaling, intimidation, or control can be used to constrain alternatives; trust and relational autonomy offer a different human response to uncertainty. ## Related Articles and Collections - **Collection:** [[collections/Simple Reminders|Simple Reminders]] - **Article:** [[articles/The Evolutionary Roots of Silicon Valley|The Evolutionary Roots of Silicon Valley]] - **Article:** [[articles/Digital Darwinism and the Invisible World of Machine Evolution|Digital Darwinism and the Invisible World of Machine Evolution]] - **Livestream:** [[livestreams/Why Real Love Gives Freedom and Lets Go of Control - Livestream|Why Real Love Gives Freedom and Lets Go of Control - Livestream]] ## Related Topics - [[wiki/Mate Guarding|Mate Guarding]] ## Share on Social Media ``` “Many primate males guard their mates closely, and that vigilance costs both partners energy and peace. Humans can choose differently, building fidelity on trust and mutual delight instead of surveillance. Relationships held together by watching are fragile, while those held by wanting to be together are strong.” — Bryant McGill, Why Real Love Gives Freedom and Lets Go of Control - Livestream (Dec 2015) https://bryantmcgill.com/simple-reminders-bryant-mcgill-trust-stronger-primate-mate-guarding ```