# Feedback and Relationships **Domain:** Cybernetics / Behavioral Science **Doc Type:** Concept Node **Maturity:** Developed ## Definition Feedback and relationships describes how attention, access, delay, praise, resistance, and consequence alter the conduct a relationship repeatedly produces. ## Mechanism Responses function as rewards, costs, and information. Changing a response pattern changes the environment in which the other person's behavior is selected and interpreted. ## Significance Relational agency grows when people observe the loop they participate in and adjust their own contribution without pretending to control another person. ## Relationships - [[wiki/Feedback Loops|Feedback Loops]] - [[wiki/Behavioral Pricing|Behavioral Pricing]] - [[wiki/Reciprocity|Reciprocity]] ## Simple Reminders, Quotations, and Thoughts > “Behavior follows its price. Attention, quick replies, and emotional reactions all reward a pattern, while calm limits make careless treatment more costly. Changing the feedback changes what a relationship keeps producing.” > **— Bryant McGill**, *Leaving Toxic Dynamics Without Losing Compassion - Livestream (Jan 2016)* [[reminders/Cybernetics/Changing the Feedback Changes the Relationship by Bryant McGill|Changing the Feedback Changes the Relationship by Bryant McGill]]