To escape our anxiety we must accept, and make peace, with the contradictions of life. Though not commonly considered, there are many non-fiction applications of suspension of disbelief, especially in a false world of illusions. Suspension of disbelief is a vital life skill for anyone who wants to live in the real world. By suspending disbelief we can believe in ourselves. We can and should begin to accept imagination as a part and form of reality, because human reality is inseparable from imagination. We can live life as broader spectrum beings, with the best qualities of children, by healing our affliction of adultism, which severed us from communing with our vast inner-child. Your inner-child, like the truly natural newborn; a sort of aboriginal proto-human of consciousness — unbound and god-like, is born into a cultural cocktail of sedation, constriction, and programming, often called, love. Natural curiosity and playful interface of innocence, only forgivable as a child, is what is seen in adults as hedonism, or insanity. The true loss of innocence is when freedom becomes shameful, and shame becomes freedom. We accept the mantel of shame in order to transition into the adult life of freedom. This is how we trade inhibition for tradition. This is how we lose ourselves. All loss of power begins with shame, and suppression of what is deemed bad in our nature.
Anxiety is intrinsic to life because the current social construct is such a fraud. In order to play the fraudulent game of modern life, one must assume an unnatural and fraudulent role; the role of an anti-human. Anti-humanism comes in the form of forced structures of consistency, social protocols, and rules of emotional conduct, which are utterly alien to beings as inconsistent, momentary, emotional, and impulsive as human beings. Each person is bound tightly in a behaviorally isometric strait-jacket of contradictions; a psychic contortion that leaves the hobbled soul jittering between impossible and unnatural forms of human being. The goodly and civil role is an anti-human posture, where the wild untamed soul is splayed upon the mental rack, like medieval torture, to bend and shunt the frighteningly splendid phenomenon of a free form soul, into an unnatural state, to thereafter be called, natural. This is how we become, and live the life, of the unnatural natural. Alan Watts' speaks to the spirit of the unnatural natural in his "social double-blind game," of which, "the first rule of this game is that it is not a game", with further contradictory rules, such as, "everyone must play" (or else), and, "be yourself, but play a consistent and acceptable role," and "control yourself, but be natural," and, "try to be sincere." Our fraudulent "real life" is an M.C. Escher-like impossible staircases into higher and more peaceful states of consciousness for individuals and society, for the rules of this game, are unsolvable puzzles, that keep us all in a constant state of anxiety.
In the same way every animal finds its way into a trap, people sure-footedly step toward normalcy to survive. The opposite of self-realization is being realized, or made real, by the standards of outside force or influence. If you are not creating yourself, then an imposed 'self,' is being created for you. When you are not building yourself as the creator of your own life, you are being built, into the image and likeness of your cultural creator. Without individuation, your identity is the collective. Common, conventional, mainstream, and normal — these are the states of the aborted individual; the unborn in mind, faculty, awareness, and self-knowledge. They are commonly called sleepwalkers, zombies, the status quo, and the masses, but in reality, it is each of us to one degree or another. The real question is how much of the actual you, are you ever going to experience? Experiencing yourself is your life purpose. You experience nothing, but yourself. Every so-called experience, relationship, connection, pain, passion, feeling, thought, sense, and emotion, is a sublimation of life's grand transmission upon the canvas of you experiencing yourself. If you are not steeped in the ecstasy of experiencing yourself, then you have never fully lived. For, the only true anxiety of life is to be severed from life, by being severed from self.
Normal is a failure of imagination. Normal is an easy-going oppression. Normal is a silent violence against progress. Normal is an insidious benevolence; a sweet tool of conformity responsible for incalculable loss. Normal is the greatest constraint and coercive force in the world. If you do not feel the constant threat and ruthless pressure of normalcy bearing down on you, it is because you are a part of it; an unknowing devotee of the unremarkable.
Many rule followers desperately want to be normal; the more desperate they are, the more they want to enforce their version of normal upon you. They are not actually fighting you, they are fighting themselves. They are fighting their fears against your peace. What they fear most, is who they are beneath the camouflage of normal. The covered wreckage and half felled scaffolding of who they once were before they gave-up haunts them like an inescapable shadow-self. Their suppressed and secreted crave for their own distinctiveness, is inverted and weaponized against anyone unusual, for they remind them of their profound loss of self. Anything aberrant or uncommon reminds them, that they took the easy way out, through the wide gates of normal.
Rule followers are merciless rule enforcers; they are the vicious administrators of the status quo. Rule followers commonly derive their sense of superiority from following and enforcing convention, and from being right — they delight in prosecuting you with their piety and judgements. It is often the most responsible, sensible, reliable, and dependable people, who will viciously destroy your dreams and the greatness within you.
No matter what you lost, or how you were hurt, there is no future for you in your painful memories. The past may have given you awareness, but it is not awareness. The past is real, but it is as ephemeral, and as unreal, and as unreachable, as any other illusion. Memories are illusions; echoes of the past. Memories can be a form of false consciousness; a place one lives to avoid living. As your past emerges in your mind, you vanish in the present. If you are not careful, your memories can imprison you. You must stop thinking about what you wish to repair from the past. You cannot heal memories, you can only heal yourself in the present. All your pain from your past, has already served you. Keep the lessons of your pain, but not the memories of your pain. Let it all go.
Most success is simply about showing up. Leadership is about taking a beating and showing up again and again. Real entrepreneurs cannot live without problems. All business is — is solving problems. Don't run from problems; run to them. Problems are not a sign things are going wrong, they are a sign you are in business and moving forward. I don't care who you are, or what you do, you are a solution provider, or you are irrelevant.
Don't let infighting, territorialism, or careerism set you back. The task of leadership is showing people the obvious ways they can and should work together. Cooperation is a higher principle than competition. Unhealthy competition can motivate people, but not without friction, loss of energy, and unnecessary collateral damage. Cooperation is more elegant and efficient than competition. Inspire people to work together. Fear, suspicion, distrust, and resentment cannot rear its ugly head where there is an atmosphere of trust and partnership.
Don't get swamped in IT. Make deep use of existing technology. Most people only use the surface of technology. We take for granted the power and availability of unfathomable tools and technology, because the are so common. We are so immersed in omnipresent tech that the deeper opportunities of technology become almost invisible. It may be a myth that we only use 10% of our brains, but we certainly only use 10% of technology, at most. Find creative ways to deeply leverage existing infrastructure and platforms. Use common technology in very uncommon ways.